- As excited as you are about driving, your parents are equally as worried. That’s because they know the odds of you having a car accident are so high.
- Nothing is more upsetting to a parent than seeing their child (no matter how old) hurt or incapacitated.
- Even though you are sure you won’t have an accident, your parents realize that no one ever intends to have an accident. That’s why they’re called accidents. The problem is, that in a car, an accident, even just a fender bender, is a big deal.
- Be glad your parents care enough about you to be worried and realize that they nag and restrict you because they want to protect you. They can’t help it, they’re parents.
Your Attitude Affects Theirs
- Parents are primarily concerned with your safety and well being, so anything you can do to show them that you care about those things too will help create a positive situation for everyone.
- Having a mature, responsible attitude about driving will make your parents feel better about your ability to make the right choices behind the wheel and will ultimately get you what you want, the car keys.
- Be patient. You need time to develop your skills as a driver and parents need time to adjust to letting you drive with them as passengers, then to letting you take the car out on your own. Rushing them or yourself is likely to backfire and have the opposite effect of what you want.
- Openly acknowledging (and believing) that making incorrect decisions behind the wheel can have potentially huge consequences will reassure your parents that you clearly understand the realities of the road. When you are behind the wheel, give the task at hand your full attention.
- Appreciating that driving is a privilege, not a right, will take some of the pressure off your parents and will help them feel more comfortable when you are behind the wheel.
Who is in Control?
- Your parents are for now. But you can earn some of that control by demonstrating that you take driving seriously and remaining calm behind the wheel –even if your parent is not.
- Eventually you will be in control of the cars keys and all the responsibilities that go along with it. Hang back and don’t rush it. It’s a lot of responsibility. Be sure you are ready and able to take on.
The Ultimate Goal
- Obviously, you want to drive. You want the freedom and mobility driving provides. Who doesn’t?
- Believe it or not, your parents ultimately want you to drive too. Driving is a necessary skill in today’s world. Plus, you being able to drive would take a lot of pressure off of them and reduce their chauffeuring duties.
- However, part of your parents’ goal includes you staying safe on the road. Of course you want that too.
- Everyone has the same goal, so what’s the problem? In short, time and patience. It takes time and patience for you to develop the skills necessary to become a safe, smart driver. It takes time and patience for your parents to adjust to a new driver in the family.
- What to do? Take a deep breath and keep your focus on learning and getting as much practice as you can. It’s the only way to build a foundation for a lifetime of safe, smart driving which is ultimately, everyone’s goal.